Home sharing will not show up in iTunes?

Try turning off Wireless Isolation in Wireless Settings in router Settings...

I've disabled wireless synchronising iTunes with my iPad and iPhone and now it works just fine.

I was looking for the answer for weeks....

This was the best advice for me. The link shows the difference between Home Sharing and Music Sharing which allows you to play music from another computer, simply by enabling Music Sharing from both computers - the link shows how to do it for Mac and for Windows.

Home Sharing allows you to move music between libraries via drag and drop. But to your point, the same AppleID and Password needs to be entered into all computers on the network. Also, it seems to be omni-directional - using my wife's AppleID/Password allowed copying in either direction. Works great. Thanks for the tip.

A copy of the link: iTunes: How to share music and video

same network, both iphone and itunes home sharing are turned on,

i can see my shared library from iphone, but itunes cannot see my iphone's despite it is checked in itunes

I tried everything suggested in here and there, but I failed. The last trial I took was putting a music file in iPad. Then, I was able to see the options to select Home sharing and choose the shared library. No music files in iPad have made you in trouble. I hope it help you.