Honestly I need a platform with staying power. My company (a fortune 10 competitor of Apple's) manufactures a media server that's pretty compelling, but needs third party software to have a snazzy interface. I started building my Apple media network before I joined this company so I never previously thought switching was an option. Apple products command a premium on eBay so I think I'll eb able to recoup a chunk of my investment when I make the switch. Also the new Samsung TVs are pretty smart and I have a neighbor who got his to talk directly to his Windows 8 tablet, so that's promising.
Dumping FR was just plain stupid. One of Apple's most strategic business decisions was building a self-contained ecosystem of devices around iTunes that caused a "halo effect" whereby users bought more and more Apple hardware because it fit nicely with their iTunes systems. I'm a perfect example - one iPod caused me to drop thousands on Apple hardware over the years because I was so hooked on the digital hub vision of Steve Jobs. Killing FR is a much deeper issue than simply discontinuing a single piece of software - it's Apple giving up on the vision of a unified ecosystem of products that work in harmony with one another and unify your media experience on a single brand. They're basically conceeding that Apple isn't and never could be more than a simlpe computer company that dabbles in consumer products.
There are home automation companies headquartered a few miles from my home that excel at creating the unified infrastructure I need. Apple was simply my elegant way to get all the functionality they offer for a fraction of the price and without a bunch of fancy and proprietary hardware. All the hacks you guys mention in this thread sound great for now, but none of them sounds as if it will last more than a few years, and I'm not interested in re-creating my entire media center every 36 months because one of the platform providers I chose got lazy.
Right now Windows with a big-brand media server seems like option #1, a proprietary system developed by a local systems integrator is #2, and hacking a Mac Mini is #4...I'm still looking for my #3 option.
I will say this, and I actually have some evidence via engineers at Apple to back this up - none of this would be happening if Steve Jobs was still alive. Steve was as much a media nut as I am and he used Apple products in the same way (almost the same configuration) that I do to control his home media experience. Before he died he told the Apple TV guys they needed to do better and he was obsessed with a media center experience built natively into an HDTV screen. I guess the folks left over there at 1 Infinite Loop decided it wasn't worth spending the time to fulfill Steve's vision, which leaves me to find another company that will.