I tried using CandyBar (the latest version available). all my icons change, not when the program asks me whether or not to restart the dock and then the finder, but only when i reboot. Secondly, even after rebooting, it does not change the finder icon at all, even after i go into the resources from the contents folder, and in addition, the trash icon is the standard icon until i trash an item, and empty it again.
any suggestions?