I've given up trying to figure this out !!
It seems there is nobody able to write applescripts/automator workflows to cure it.
I'm looking at second hand USB 2.0 Drives to replace the Thunderbolt and USB 3.0 ones as they are unusable as back ups because of the risk of corruption.
I've tried running the USB 3.0 drives through a 2.0 hub without success.
Seems a bit sad that a company as (previously) progressive as Apple can't, or won't, sort this out.
I expect it will be 3 or 4 years before I can afford to change computers again so might look at PC's next !!!!!!!!!!
The more recent OS on these seems to work fairly well and, at least, there is a fair bit of technical help on the web if/when things go wrong.
I've only ever had Apple PC's so far because "they worked".
No longer seems to be the case - style is all now, perhaps.