I agree, it is unexceptable! I'm scared sh@&less to change my password (or other settings) because of all the crap we have to put up with.
Music downloads is another thing, everytime I buy music on iTunes I get several duplicates despite the fact I've followed every advice I've gotten from apple. Verbatim!
When I follow their "duplicate clean up" instructions and click on duplicates and then delete the songs copies I don't want I end up with music on my iPhone but the same songs on my computer won't play because "the original version cannot be found"?! Yet I've followed their own d@&n instructions and the dude at the apple store goes - "hmm, that's weird..." Did I get any reimbursement? Nope! Yet some 40+ songs on my desktop (iTunes account) won't play now; they do play on my iPhone but when I upgrade to a new one they'll be gone as I can't transfer those songs from an iPhone to an iPhone. It has to be via iTunes (even with cloud) and iTunes cannot find the original songs!!!?? Remember, all those songs were purchased on iTunes, I simply didn't want any duplicates anymore.
I've contacted my branch of better business bureau to complain about the poor customer service, they said their list of complaints is very long. Maybe a newspaper should research this subject? I've had every single new iPhone that's come out but I'm losing faith in Apple, they are like the government, so big they simply don't care. Disappointed. :-(