Juhaz,
We actually agree. This is what I said: "But since the HDMI on the non-Retina machines was working (wasn't it?) before 10.8.2, there has to be a software solution or workaround."
No, "my fix," which, of course, wasn't my fix, at all, but rather was Apple's fix only for the Retina MBP, doesn't seem to work for non-Retina, that is, older MBPs.
But clearly there is something in 10.8.2 which has caused the problem in the older MBPs, since the HDMI was working before 10.8.2. And since software doesn't change or damage hardware (although it can change firmware), there is still something that can be done in terms of either the firmware or the OS with the older MBPs. The problem is that no one seems to know what to do at this point.
I'm not pleased, either, with Apple, but they are the only people we have to work with. That's why I've strongly suggested that you and others contact AppleCare and try to force them to find and fix the problem. They will have to gather data and logs from your computer, as they did with mine, and send this information to their engineers. Until they see what's happening on /your/ MBP with HDMI, they can't come up with a fix.
To use AppleCare after you are out of warranty may cost you $50 or so per incident, although that might be waived once they figure out the problem is their fault. If you use your MacBook Pro for business, as many of us do, it's worth it to pay the $50 to AppleCare, and much cheaper (and easier) than switching to Windows.
Ken