E-mail attachments appear as viewable page- want icon only

I send many e-mails a day with word and pdf attachments to them, to clients. Two things I struggle with and hope to solve.

1- I use the Mac mail system. When I attach a document, sometimes only the icon shows, and sometimes the whole page shows. From reading other posts, it looks like if the attachment is only 1 page, the whole page shows on my screen. I DO NOT want that. I print my e-mails for my files and when the whole page shows, an e-mail that should be 1/2 a page turns into a 4-page e-mail. A waste of paper and space in my files. How do I make all the attachments appear as icons? I have tried right click, "show as icon" and that makes only the icon show on the screen, but when I print the e-mail, the entire page of 1-page attachments print (although smaller), making the e-mail way too long. HELP!

2- is there a way, when I attach files, for them to appear in a separate line at the top of the message, like for windows/outlook users? I absolutely hate that whereever my cursor is at the time I do the attachment, that's where the attachment goes to. I often compose e-mail and then go back to revise something, forget to move the cursor, attach, have to delete, and go back and reattach.

Also I get Windows users who get very confused by my e-mails and keep replying and saying there was no attachment. I don't know where attachments show up on the other end but I'm getting issues with that, too.

Thank you to any one who can give me solutions!