melisolaris' comments work only if the option for unchecking the Calendars and Reminders is available.
For many of us in this post, this option was greyed out (even forced quitting and restarting, and then waiting for 30 sectonds).
Clearing the Calendar Cache enabled this option and then I could follow that of melisolaris.
To clear the calendar cache
1: Go to Finder
2: Select Go Menu
3 Select Library Folder in the drop down menu (if you cannot find Library Folder then also press the option key while in this dropdown menu, the library folder should appear - then select it)
3: Select the Calendar folder
4: Delete file named Calendar Cache
Once this is done then you can:
1: Close System Preferences (if its open)
2: Open System Preferences
3: Select iCloud
4: The Calendars & Reminders option(s) should now be available (not greyed out) for you to deselect
5: You man need to repeat steps 1-4 above
This worked for me and I really hope it works also for you, since I share your frustration with this error.