Hi Michael. I had the same problem too. And after reading this thread, I tried something different and it seemed that it fixed the problem, at least for me, for now. Maybe you can try it and confirm.
1. I think the key is, this change affects all the enclosed folders. So, if you want to change the "Name" column width of all of the folders on your hard drive, start at your hard drive (highest) level. Close all windows in Finder, then double-click your hard drive icon (if you do this at several folders down, it will seem like it doesn't do anything).
2. Adjust the "Name" column width, and the window size to your liking. Go to menu -> Show View Options -> Then click "Use as Defaults" button down at the bottom. That sets the "Name" column width for all of the folders on that hard drive.
If you have a second drive or an external drive, you have to do the same thing to that hard drive.
If you have a shared drive on a server, you have to do the same thing on the server (can't do it remotely).
Worth a try.
-Alex.