I cannot get Netflix to install on my first gen iPad either. I download it in iTunes, but it never shows up as purchased on the iPad. Perhaps one of a number of factors is interfering with this process, so let me check:
1. Does it matter what version of OS X/iTunes I'm running (I have OS X 10.7.5 and iTunes 11.1.4)?
2. The iPad used to be associated with my Dad's apple ID. While I thought I'd extinguished the account, it sometimes still asks for my dad's account password. Could this interfere?
3. I have an iPhone running the newest iOS on which I have the iPhone version of the newest Netflix app. Could that be interfering with the iPad install?
Here are some screen caps I've taken along the way:
Of course, my first attempt to install via App Store on iPad:

Second attempt to install with iTunes:

Here's what it shows for the iPad in iTunes:

Here's proof it's downloaded:

And here's what I see in the Purchased tab in the App Store on the first gen iPad. Note, Netflix is not there, nor are any of the 35 other apps I tried to install from iTunes. A handful of other apps successfully installed that way, but Netflix and Dropbox are the ones I want the most.

If anyone has some suggestions as to how to work around this issue, I'd appreciate the feedback.
Thanks,
Rob