Followed this thread because i have exactly the same problem. No connection possible withe the following entries in the systemlog of mac os server and exactly the same error on the iphone (no wlan connection active):
Feb 22 15:35:48 myserver.com racoon[86348]: Connecting.
Feb 22 15:35:48 myserver.com racoon[86348]: IPSec Phase 1 started (Initiated by peer).
Feb 22 15:35:48 myserver.com racoon[86348]: IKE Packet: receive success. (Responder, Main-Mode message 1).
Feb 22 15:35:48 myserver.com racoon[86348]: >>>>> phase change status = Phase 1 started by us
Feb 22 15:35:48 myserver.com racoon[86348]: IKE Packet: transmit success. (Responder, Main-Mode message 2).
Feb 22 15:35:49 myserver.com racoon[86348]: IKE Packet: receive success. (Responder, Main-Mode message 3).
Feb 22 15:35:49 myserver.com racoon[86348]: IKE Packet: transmit success. (Responder, Main-Mode message 4).
Feb 22 15:35:49 myserver.com racoon[86348]: Ignore INITIAL-CONTACT notification, because it is only accepted after Phase 1.
Feb 22 15:35:49 myserver.com racoon[86348]: IKEv1 Phase 1 AUTH: success. (Responder, Main-Mode Message 5).
Feb 22 15:35:49 myserver.com racoon[86348]: IKE Packet: receive success. (Responder, Main-Mode message 5).
Feb 22 15:35:49 myserver.com racoon[86348]: IKEv1 Phase 1 Responder: success. (Responder, Main-Mode).
Feb 22 15:35:49 myserver.com racoon[86348]: IKE Packet: transmit success. (Responder, Main-Mode message 6).
Feb 22 15:35:49 myserver.com racoon[86348]: IKE Packet: transmit success. (Information message).
Feb 22 15:35:49 myserver.com racoon[86348]: IKEv1 Information-Notice: transmit success. (ISAKMP-SA).
Feb 22 15:35:49 myserver.com racoon[86348]: IPSec Phase 1 established (Initiated by peer).
Feb 22 15:35:50 myserver.com racoon[86348]: IPSec Phase 2 started (Initiated by peer).
Feb 22 15:35:50 myserver.com racoon[86348]: IKE Packet: receive success. (Responder, Quick-Mode message 1).
Feb 22 15:35:50 myserver.com racoon[86348]: >>>>> phase change status = Phase 2 started
Feb 22 15:35:50 myserver.com racoon[86348]: IKE Packet: transmit success. (Responder, Quick-Mode message 2).
Feb 22 15:35:50 myserver.com racoon[86348]: IKE Packet: receive success. (Responder, Quick-Mode message 3).
Feb 22 15:35:50 myserver.com racoon[86348]: IKEv1 Phase 2 Responder: success. (Responder, Quick-Mode).
Feb 22 15:35:50 myserver.com racoon[86348]: IPSec Phase 2 established (Initiated by peer).
Feb 22 15:35:50 myserver.com racoon[86348]: >>>>> phase change status = Phase 2 established
Feb 22 15:35:50 myserver.com vpnd[45763]: Incoming call... Address given to client = 10.0.1.201
Feb 22 15:35:51 myserver.com vpnd[45763]: Incoming call... Address given to client = 10.0.1.200
Feb 22 15:35:53 myserver.com vpnd[45763]: Incoming call... Address given to client = 10.0.1.209
Feb 22 15:35:58 myserver.com vpnd[45763]: Incoming call... Address given to client = 10.0.1.208
Feb 22 15:36:02 myserver.com vpnd[45763]: Incoming call... Address given to client = 10.0.1.205
Feb 22 15:36:06 myserver.com vpnd[45763]: Incoming call... Address given to client = 10.0.1.204
Feb 22 15:36:10 myserver.com vpnd[45763]: Incoming call... Address given to client = 10.0.1.206
Feb 22 15:36:11 myserver.com racoon[86348]: IKE Packet: receive success. (Information message).
Feb 22 15:36:20 --- last message repeated 1 time ---
Feb 22 15:36:20 myserver.com pppd[46589]: invalid address parameter '2002:4d3a:7d1a::9284:dff:fed2:bd8' for ms-dns option
Feb 22 15:36:20 myserver.com vpnd[45763]: --> Client with address = 10.0.1.201 has hungup
Feb 22 15:36:22 myserver.com pppd[46593]: invalid address parameter '2002:4d3a:7d1a::9284:dff:fed2:bd8' for ms-dns option
Feb 22 15:36:22 myserver.com vpnd[45763]: --> Client with address = 10.0.1.200 has hungup
Feb 22 15:36:23 myserver.com pppd[46594]: invalid address parameter '2002:4d3a:7d1a::9284:dff:fed2:bd8' for ms-dns option
Feb 22 15:36:23 myserver.com vpnd[45763]: --> Client with address = 10.0.1.209 has hungup
Feb 22 15:36:28 myserver.com pppd[46599]: invalid address parameter '2002:4d3a:7d1a::9284:dff:fed2:bd8' for ms-dns option
Feb 22 15:36:28 myserver.com vpnd[45763]: --> Client with address = 10.0.1.208 has hungup
Feb 22 15:36:32 myserver.com pppd[46603]: invalid address parameter '2002:4d3a:7d1a::9284:dff:fed2:bd8' for ms-dns option
Feb 22 15:36:32 myserver.com vpnd[45763]: --> Client with address = 10.0.1.205 has hungup
Feb 22 15:36:36 myserver.com pppd[46607]: invalid address parameter '2002:4d3a:7d1a::9284:dff:fed2:bd8' for ms-dns option
Feb 22 15:36:36 myserver.com vpnd[45763]: --> Client with address = 10.0.1.204 has hungup
Feb 22 15:36:40 myserver.com pppd[46608]: invalid address parameter '2002:4d3a:7d1a::9284:dff:fed2:bd8' for ms-dns option
Feb 22 15:36:40 myserver.com vpnd[45763]: --> Client with address = 10.0.1.206 has hungup
myserver.com stands for my FQDN resolved in dyndns.com and entered in VPN-Panel on Server, all mentioned ports forwarded in Airport-extreme to Mac Server.
Any ideas?