I am having a similar problem can anyone help?
I have been donated an old ipad2 by a friend. She erased everything and I set everything up this morning, logged in to my existing icloud account and got started. Unfortunately I forgot to disable my passcode and now I'm locked out as I can't remember it (well I can, but that's another story!). I have tried to erase the ipad to start over but I am unable to do it via find my iphone as the ipad is offline and I can't get past the lock screen to connect. So I have tried to put it in recovery mode and do it connected to itunes but it insists on updating first. The ipad then restarts and itunes tells me it cannot connect to ipad as it's locked with passcode. I feel as though I'm going around in circles. How can I erase the ipad and start again?