Bad combo.. SB6141 and TC have known issues.. Just do a search here.. sb6121 or sb6141 and apple AC routers have some incompatibility .. wan on the TC somehow comes up wrong settings.
Nor do I have a simple fix.. the TC or the modem should be replaced.
Line of least resistance says just buy a cheap wireless router.. eg TP-Link WR1043ND.. cheap and quite a powerful unit. Can also be flashed to a very good firmware.. gargoyle.
Another one rather out of date is Netgear WNDR3800.. you might need to buy it second hand.. ebay for instance.. $40 or so. but the new TP-Link is about the same. Again flash over to gargoyle.
The TC can then work in bridge plugged into the router.. it will provide wireless and hard disk access etc for backups ..
You can replace the modem.. Zoom or ubee I have heard work ok.. but you will need to check COX for which is supported.
I have suggested to people in the past to try using a small switch 10/100, between the SB modem and the TC.. or a crossover cable.. but it is not terribly successful of late. The problem seems to be getting worse rather than better.
You can also take the TC back to apple for replacement and get another one.. but the issue affects.. 4 out of 5 and perhaps doesn't show up immediately either.