I have to say I figured out why mine was going so slow sending to the server but receiving was fast.
I have an Asus RT-AC68U, which worked great under Yosemite. I could transfer nearly 75-100mbs per second on large files. After updating to El Capitan beta it got very slow on sending from what it was.
The problem continued on all betas and it was bad. I counted today and it took 40 seconds to send a 25mb file through the LAN. Last night I tried it on a cheaper version of the router at home and it worked fine. I thought that was strange. So I contacted ASUS and they had me reset the router to factory defaults (I had kept up on firmware upgrades) and reentered all my settings except I changed wireless network names so the MBA wouldn't try to use the same settings just in case that had something to do with it.
Right after entering just enough settings to get me connected to the server on an AC wifi I tried it out. Low and behold it worked! My speeds were faster sending now than receiving. I tested a 160mb file and it took 2.5 seconds to send. Between upgrading OS's and firmware updates something in the router needed reset.
Anyway, I just wanted to let you know that maybe resetting your wifi router (I know some of you did and it didn't help) may solve some of your issues too. It may be worth the half hour of time that it takes to do it.