ok, so i spent the cash and got the missing sync, now i still have the same problem with the address book... and i did a test, if i put a new entry into the empty address book on the lifedrive, when i sync it does not show up on my apple address book.
the ical works perfectly, but this address book is getting on my nerves, i spoke with an apple store genius and they told me that if i cant get it fixed to just use the palm desktop! I told him that first, i want my mac to sync all which includes the ical and address book to .mac and my palm... and secondly, i would have not spent the money on the missing sync if i was just going to do that...
michael, if you have any ideas they would be greatly appreciated. do you know what files are supposed to exist and where, maybe i deleted something when trying to fix the ical?
fix one and break another... just my luck