Hi Jen,
I’m not sure why your post was deleted? I don't work for Apple, but I’m sorry to hear of your iOS troubles with Notes, as you can see via this thread I can relate and I emphasize with you. The issues are for iOS, the OSX version is fine, which does offer an escape plan, see below.
This is my recommendation, assume that Apple Notes is no longer an option any further and try another note taking platform that works for you. Read the posts in this thread which offer alternatives for you. I’m not saying they are perfect, (what is?). Reluctantly and sadly, I abandoned Apple Notes because of these issues, I initially switched back to Evernote for the short term many many weeks ago and have gradually transitionied to Microsoft OneNote. It’s a bit of overkill and has taken awhile to acclimatize, but it’s stable and is working for me, I’m still learning how to use it. Perhaps you can try transferring your Apple Notes on your OSX desktop to the OSX desktop of Microsoft OneNote and start your transition that way, that’s what I did. Hope this helps.
I’m not happy with the current situation with iOS Notes, but I had to move on and not view it negatively any further. I took control of my situation, found an alternative that works for me and moved on from this. “This too shall pass”, first world problems right?
Here is my perspective and my personal opinion, I’ve seen many attempts within this iOS thread to resolve this that have never worked for me in a stable way. I believe that the next major iOS update (12?) is our best hope for a resolution. 11.3 could resolve it, but who knows? Like I said I took control of my notes needs and sadly transitioned away from Apple to another platform. Upcoming Apple iOS updates could resolve this, but I will check that out when it happens, right now my notes needs are taken care of with my own solution.
I own just about every Apple tech you can think of, and in many cases more than one (Watch, iPads, Apple TV, timecapsules, iMacs, Thunderbolt displays etc.) and have a significant investment in Apple iOS and OSX, and was I disappointed and disheartened with this whole ordeal at the beginning? Yes, but there is no other platform that works for me like Apple... sure Apple has its shortcomings, but overall the Apple environment is far more superior than the other alternatives, but that’s just me. Apple stuff for the most part works... again, this is my opinion, maybe I have become numb with this whole thing.
Hope this helps 😊
Rob