Ok, I now have my Macbook back to the state it was in before I attempted the High Sierra install! To avoid having to wait for my partners account to be reset/reactivated, I tried using my Apple ID on her Macbook to download El Capitan and that worked. I then tried to use the command to create the bootable USB flash drive as detailed in
http://osxdaily.com/2015/09/30/create-os-x-el-capitan-boot-install-drive/
i.e.
sudo /Applications/Install\ OS\ X\ El\ Capitan.app/Contents/Resources/createinstallmedia --volume /Volumes/ElCapInstaller --applicationpath /Applications/Install\ OS\ X\ El\ Capitan.app —nointeraction
but that didn't work since my partners Macbook is running Snow Leopard (10.6.8) and so the createinstallmedia command wasn't available!! So updated her OS to El Capitan (copying the downloaded image to another folder first since it gets deleted after install) and then I was able to create the bootable USB using that command.
Then inserted the new SDD as described in...
https://www.ifixit.com/Guide/MacBook+Pro+15-Inch+Retina+Display+Late+2013+SSD+Re placement/23431
…which was was quite simple to do - the new SSD I obtained from Flex Memory (Transcend Jetdrive 820, 480GB SSD Upgrade Kit for MacBook Air Mid 2013 - 2017,MacBook Pro (Retina) Late 2013 - Mid 2015, Mac mini Late 2014 and Mac Pro Late 2013)
comes with the two screwdrivers required to remove the back case (P5 pentalobe screws) and the SSD itself (T5 Torx screw).
Booted up as advised using Option key and erased/reformatted the new SSD as Mac OS extended, journaled.
I just did a full restore from my Time Capsule - took about 5 hours but it was something that I could kick off and leave.
Only issue when I restarted Macbook eventually was that it had to do some repair to my iPhoto library.
I then wanted to update my OS to El Capitan, but it wouldn’t let me - looking online seems to indicate it will only let you do it from Snow Leopard or Lion?? I do have the Install OS El Capitan image - can I simply execute that to do it? The guy at the Genius bar did say that when I had installed the new SSD I could bring it back and he would put Sierra on it for me.
As for my old SSD - since I’m sure it’s not a lost cause, I’ll look into salvaging that as an external drive - I think I remember OWC advertising some enclosure you could buy to contain it and connect via USB (or whatever). I’ll report back if I have any luck.
Thanks again for eveyones help - obviously I’m not happy at having to shell out £315 after an attempted High Sierra ‘upgrade’ but that’s half the price Apple were quoting me. At least the new SSD has a 5 year warranty so if anything goes wrong hopefullybits within that timeframe!