Hello, Juliepeck7.
Welcome to Apple Support Communities.
I understand that after updating to iOS 11 your shared photo album is gone. I know how important memories are and I may be able to help with this. Since this album came from your daughter, I would double check with her and make sure you weren't removed or the shared album was deleted:
iCloud Photo Sharing
As the creator of a shared album, you control who can access it. You can remove subscribers or delete the album at any time. When you delete a shared album, it's automatically removed from all of your devices and the devices of your subscribers. If Public Website was enabled, the shared album is removed from the web too.
- Open the shared album.
- Go to the People tab.
- Select the subscriber that you want to remove.
- Choose Remove Subscriber.
- Open the shared album.
- Go to the People tab.
- Choose Delete Shared Album.

Any photos that were previously saved or downloaded from the shared album to another location, such as the Photos tab, won't be deleted from that location.
For future reference, shared albums are not permanent on your device until you save the photo directly. Included in the link I posted shows how.

Anyone that can access a shared album can download the photos and keep them forever. On your iPhone, iPad, or iPod touch, tap the photo >
> Save Image. On your Mac, select the photo or video, control-click > Import. You can only save shared videos to a Mac or PC.
Let me know if this helps.
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