Creating bogy man to scare us into conformity has been a ploy used since we were 2 years old.. and continues to be a favourite of authorities of any stripe or description. "Matters of national security" covers a multitude of sins.
Somehow I doubt anyone is going to target you to capture your baby photos. They might like to extort ransom money from you.. but Apple is smart enough to stop that happening before it even starts. Although anything is possible the costs have to exceed the rewards. And since for every Mac user there are 9 sweet juicy windows users around you who know neither their left hand from their right.. mostly they offer you the best protection you could have.
Apple firmware is not invincible.. nothing is. I will poke my neck out and say that for now.. Apple router firmware is mighty solid. As long as you don't turn on setup over wan or run with stupidly weak default passwords, gaining access over the internet is difficult. (Gaining access for people with local access is trivially easy to compensate I suppose.)
Going back to the topic. even if SNMP is available it is not open to WAN. People would need to setup port mapping for remote access to gain that access since it is not open .. people from outside cannot do it. The latest weakness in routers is caused by cheap end linux firmware which is used without understanding by cheap end hardware manufacturers. And then not patched when weaknesses are found.
As long as you buy decent quality stuff from manufacturers who have reputations to protect, you can be sure they will offer patches when weaknesses are discovered. Nobody can make it perfect.. due to the number of very brainy people who spend all their time discovering how to access these devices.
As long as you don't have too much on your computer of value (money wise or knowledge).. your network security is not something to keep you awake at night.