The options are to sync nothing, sync the iCloud Drive folder, or sync the iCloud Drive folder and Desktop and Documents. If you only want to sync selected folders you can turn on iCloud Drive (and not turn on Desktop and Documents) and put the folders that you want to sync into the iCloud Drive folder. You can make the iCloud Drive folder easier to access by using Finder Preferences to show it in the Finder Sidebar.
Another method would be to turn on iCloud Drive and also turn on Desktop and Documents and then put any folders that you do not want to sync in a folder or folders in your Home folder (but not in the Documents folder).
I suspect that isn't the answer you want to hear (as it seemed to be already said in the thread you linked to, although I did not read the entire thread), but there aren't other options that you can select as may be available in other cloud services. If so, you may want to provide feedback to Apple via Feedback - iCloud - Apple