Merging of contacts between 2 phones Unwanted

Apple ID's aren't meant to be shared. Everyone should get their own Apple ID and you can set up Family Sharing to share apps, etc.

This link explains Family Sharing: Family Sharing - Apple

buzz2295,

As noted above, Apple ID's are not meant to be shared. Everyone should have their own unique Apple ID. Otherwise you will continue to have similar problems.

As noted, as an alternative, you should use Family Sharing to share purchases etc.

Family Sharing

Good luck.

Apple came up with Family Sharing a few years ago to avoid sharing of Apple IDs. That is the solution to your problem. And I disagree with your assertion that most parents do it this way.

We've given you the correct answer; if you don't like it, then you're on your own. Good luck.

BTW, Apple anticipated this, which is why they clearly warn NOT to share ID's.

Can I share an Apple ID with someone else?

Your Apple ID should not be shared with anyone else. It provides access to personal information including contacts, photos, device backups, and more. Sharing your Apple ID with someone else means you are giving them access to all your personal content and may lead to confusion over who actually owns the account. To share iTunes & App Store purchases, photos, a calendar, and more with someone else, try Family Sharing, iCloud Photo Sharing, or other easy-to-use sharing features.

See my reply to Deggie on this. Yes, it became obvious in iOS 12, but is evidently acting the way Apple intended it to. You had a workaround that worked for you, pre-iOS 12. You likely don't have the same workaround available to you.

Here's the article in iDrop News validating this is now by design: iOS 12 Users Report iMessages Are Being Sent to the Wrong People

Trying to change “behavior” of a comfortable way that families conduct social messaging is not an acceptable answer. As the article clearly states, this is a bug, I called Apple and they said they are working on a solution for this as THEY REALIZE MANY FAMILIES share an Apple ID! So the proper solution for the thousands in my situation is to wait for the IOS update. Obviously, the people who are commenting on individual Apple ID’s don’t realize that parents don’t want to create individual ID’s for all 6 family members!!! Hope this helps and please accept my apologies for the unsavvy techs on here trying to force improper solution on us!!! Live and learn and contact Apple directly!!!

This is driving us nuts too! Have multiple family members on one user ID... we will type a text message and another’s name will automatically pop up. It has nothing to do with Contacts as the emails under the contacts have not changed. The only way to change is to delete all conversations with the two family members and start again but then the problems resurfaces. Definitely started after new update. Mainly happens with one phone on Verizon (work phone) while others are on ATT.

You obviously do not know the problem here! Most parents who have multiple kids with phones all use one Apple ID. Most people do not use Apple Cloud for photos as there are much better options! You do not see other people's text messages when using one Apple ID... that feature is set up in the settings. There has been a glitch since IOS 12 where, when you type a text message to say child #1 John... it will automatically change and send it to child #2 Ben. This is a major problem. Having 4 kids with phones, your solution of having 6 Apple ID's for each phone in the family is not a reasonable solution!!! Wow, we have some unsavvy tech people on here! Let me guess, you have no kids? Anyway, the problem still exists and is growing if you search on here for it! Please try and use rational and basic solutions when you answer or post on here! You sound silly (and uneducated) in your attempt to solve this problem!!!

For families that have 75,000-150,000 pictures and videos (there are millions of us out there!) photo sharing sites like Amazon and Google are far better solutions as they are totally free where Apple has only a small space for free. Once again, off topic and has nothing to do with the point of this complaint!

When you have little kids, you simply set things like Facetime, and text messages, to their specific email on their device when sharing one Apple ID....every parent I know shares their one ID on multiple phones and/or iPads! Once again, this problem arose specifically with the IOS12 operating system so your solution is not a true solution! Please educate yourself on the subject before posting unhelpful and ridiculous advice.

It is related to this discussion as the Apple ID is the key to iCloud. Are you saying that you also created a separate iCloud account for each child? If this is true then what is the point of them sharing an Apple ID?

We have had the same issue since the update and new phones. Any help from Apple?

I'd also hazard a guess that more people than not absolutely DO use the cloud for photo management. They may also store photos elsewhere, but the cloud is great for your photo's.