The new firmware is very buggy. People are finding loads of issues..
If you cannot get it to show up directly you can often access it using manual method..
ie in Airport Utility (not sure what home app you are talking about). Go to top menu, file, configure other.
You will need the Express IP address which you can find from whatever router is handing out IP addresses.
If you are unsure tell us the whole network setup and we can give you more instructions.. once you find it then set its IP to static instead of DHCP which will help to locate it next time.