My phone has been loaded with a spy app of some sort can apple find sender and remove app on my phone

Unless these people have had access to your phone while it was unlocked, they could not have installed anything. Is it possible that that happened?

It's possible that your ex knows your Apple ID password. You should change that and add two-factor authentication.

If you think your Apple ID has been compromised - Apple Support

What are you talking about?

Your screen shot shows an Apple developer contributed a change to WebKit.

That's not spyware, it's the standard mechanism by which Safari and other applications in iOS access the web.

"MTAudioProcessingTap" is the function by which applications can apply signal processing to audio in iOS.

Could someone do this through parental controls. I’m a 50 yr. old don’t need those.

Only if they have had physical access to your unlocked phone or if they have access to your Apple ID and passcode.

Did you read the article I linked to above about what to do it you think your Apple ID has been compromised? If you haven't, now would be a good time to do so.

Apple is in on the git/WebKit(mirrored) being ran on mine! As well is my ex wife . Funny how they do things , control over things you do and things you see . Printed copies of it 191 pages of documents history and other information.

I had this happen also. Did you notice anything unusual embedded in your photos or videos that appeared to be in the background but couldn’t access it?

My Android phone was stolen an hour after I bought it. After a few weeks the thief identified himself (N FLORES by name) when he accessed my Lenovo Android tablet as well both my iPads. Not sure it’s relevant to my question...I’m a disabled veteran suffering emotionally in specific ways, after having been stolen from and then humiliated by the thief. With a companion who is a wizard hacker undaunted by any security measures, my attacker continues to surveille me and intrude in my life and my privacy. I have resigned to the notion there’s nothing I can do about it. In fact I would not be surprised if this post disappeared momentarily ... That has been happening years. During the past four days I’ve spent hours writing posts like these. Not one has ever reached an intended audience.

Well, so here’s a guy looking for “help” in all the wrong places, right? That I can see. Every word of mine is true and clear, however.

More clarity anyone?

My Android phone was stolen an hour after I bought it. After a few weeks the thief identified himself (N FLORES by name) when he accessed my Lenovo Android tablet as well both my iPads.

He could not have accessed your iPads unless he had physical access to them while they were unlocked. If you had your Apple ID and password stored on your other devices, he could have gained access to your Apple ID. If you think that's the case, you should follow the instructions in the link I posted above.

I contacted apple and told them to please monitor all activity on my phone.

I contacted apple and told them to please monitor all activity on my phone.

That is not something Apple can or will do.

When I went to my Apple ID in settings there was a second gear emblem running under my Apple ID gear emblem which I couldn’t access

I only saw it once and it was brief. I never saw it again. But whoever was running it had capabilities they shouldn’t have have had to my iPhone via settings

I could not out run them when I tried to set restrictions. It was crazy fast

Could someone do this through parental controls. I’m a 50 yr. old don’t need those.

What do you believe that screenshot indicates?

What makes you think there is spyware installed? In any event these are user-to-user communities - you will need to contact Apple and/or law enforcement.