The button on my 17 inch MBP certainly looks like grain sanded stainless steel, and it shows no sign of chipping. I wonder if the same button is used on the 15 inch? If it truly is stainless steel, I don't see how the finish could possibly chip. If it's a type of flash chrome plating, possibly it could.
To my eyes, the finishes do not match perfectly. They are very close, but I see the plastic keys, the painted strip, the trackpad, and the case as being very slightly different in how they reflect the light. The mouse button seems to match the case most closely. I would guess that whatever paint they used was carefully formulated to match the anodized surface. I can see subtle differences in the shades, but they did a remarkable job of matching the color.