Here is an interesting update that doesn't fix any issues, but definitely explains how the machine could wake up in your bag when you swear it was asleep. I've confirmed this multiple times before posting.
Put the machine to sleep with nothing plugged into it. Carefully turn the machine over and ensure it remains asleep, placing it lid down on the table so the battery is nearest you. Now, press moderately below the printed area at the top of the back panel. You won't need to press hard. You should find that the computer immediate awakes as though you have opened the cover or pressed a key.
With my machine, that is indeed the case. The event that triggers the wake event when pressing the back cover as described above is the keyboard:
*Lid Open, Keyboard Pressed*
Nov 25 07:38:01 Grace kernel[0]: USB (OHCI):Port 6 on bus 0x4 has remote wakeup from some device
*Lid Closed, Back cover pressed*
Nov 25 07:34:50 Grace kernel[0]: USB (OHCI):Port 6 on bus 0x4 has remote wakeup from some device
If you imagine putting your computer in your bag with hinge down, you've got a 50% chance of having this pressure point facing out toward your body. With mine, I put it in the bag the same way every time, bottom out, and that pressure point nearly perfectly hits my hip. While walking, I'm essentially pressing the keyboard over and over again, keeping the machine from sleeping.
It is worth noting that my machine exhibits all of the same issues as are listed here: staying awake in my bag and finding it red hot; not waking properly from sleep, etc. Thinking these issues were based on a migration, I reinstalled fresh shortly after getting the machine, but all issues persist. It is certainly possible that some third party software can create issues, of course, which I understand, but my previous first gen MBP had no issues with an identical software setup.
One other constant that may or may not be related, that is worth testing out for the Power Manager's sake, is the screen saver. I have my screen saver set to a hot corner, so I can lock down with a password. Every day or two this hot corner will stop working, as will my screen saver completely, even after it reaches the point where it should kick on during idle. The screen will sleep, but the screen saver will never enable. I find that this might be related in that when this occurs, there is no way to reboot the machine without a hard reboot, as Logout will never complete, even after hours of waiting. This is reproduceable.
A few occasions since I've notice this occurrence I have, at least coincidentally, also had major sleep issues shortly after. Though I haven't had enough time to fully troubleshoot it, I've definitely had a no-dialog-ever-upon-wake, and an awake-in-bag issue while having the screen saver system die.