Mine is actually the opposite. Also frustrating. When I close the lid, it will sleep for about a minute and wake up, when I see the Apple glowing I open the lip, enter the password and it will got back to sleep... then I close the lid and guess what... it's awake again!
I'm at work today, this happened again, so I disconnected everything thinking that it was the USB mouse causing the wake, and it did it again... the lid was already open, so it woke up wanting to know the password, I let it sit there for a while and the screen saver came on after it wanted my frick'n password. The screen started flickering and I stopped it. Then the login screen was displayed behind the login panel and was still flickering the screen saver behind it, I then entered my password.... it wasn't letting my select the field for my password... then it locked up. I waiting and it sat there w/ the spinning beach ball of death.
Ultimately I was forced to do a hard shutdown. This is a normal thing now. For whatever reason I cannot get it to stay asleep when I need it to. It will sleep sometimes though, but it's usually when I don't need it to, and I'm sure my need for it to stay asleep isn't linked to it's actions.