This is what worked for me finally:
http://www.newegg.ca/Product/Product.aspx?Item=N82E16820146878
I had originally bought a 2x2GB kit from OCZ that caused video problems with waking from sleep.
If you are having problems with your new RAM test each stick of ram (2GB) by itself in each slot, so you only have 2GB RAM total installed and see if you have problems with a particular slot. I found I only had problems when I had the new RAM, Either stick of 2GB, installed in the lower slot, it worked fine in the upper.
I hope Apple tests this out and releases some sort of patch or firmware update to fix this as there should be no problems with third-party RAM.