Music fonts (and spacing)

Hi all,

I've searched many music and computer music forums and can't find a music font that is designed for (or at least, will work correctly) with text documents. I do a lot of writing about music, and am looking for a better solution than using the pound sign and lower case B when referring to, e.g., C# and Eb.

There are plenty of music fonts, but it seems they are all designed for the particular notation program: Sibelius, Finale, Lime, Logic, etc. When I use them in line, that is, a sentence in Times then switch fonts for one character, it screws up the spacing, making the line take up more space. Even if I decrease the font size or superscript them, they take up too much space.

Here is an example:
http://fileserver.music.utah.edu/~dcottle/Music/Musicintext.png

In reverse order of importance:

1) How can I fix this with the fonts I'm using? I know how to set the exact spacing in Word, but am new to Pages.

2) Forcing the spacing is a kluge. I really should be using fonts that are spaced correctly. Where can I find a font with graceful, engraved music characters but intended to be used as text?

3) Why does it do that? The sharp and flats I use are the same size as the other characters in the regular font. Why do music fonts take so much space?