SOLVED - update - took several more hours of searching plus installing iTunes 12.10.xx on a spare PC to try iTunes based update; during the wifi attempt, a message said the process required 137 MB of free memory - so i deleted enuf songs via TunesGo to meet that space - did not work - still hung spinning;
the iTunes update process first failed, endless spinning wheel as before, on retry iTunes later announced it needed 957 MB of free space, so i deleted 1 Gig of music - then it took iTunes about 3 hrs over DSL to download & install the update - success at last; then i used Wondershare TunesGo to re-install the music (if you don't have it - GET IT)
why the *&^%$*& apple can't just tell us in plain english what the should-be-simple process requires, along with a linear sequential set of steps totally baffles me