FWIW, automatically-synced editing is one of the best features of iCloud Photos. Adding or deleting a photo, along with cropping, rotating, making lighting changes, etc., on any one of your devices is immediately changed on all of them, including in the Mac Photos application. None of the "This photo is not editable, do you want to Duplicate and Edit" messages any more.
That said, there are a few things I *don't* like about iCloud Photos, after I switched to it a few weeks back: 1) ALL photos and albums are synced across all my devices; I can't individually select the ones to sync like I could with iTunes (or in the Catalina Finder); 2) I opted to download all high-resolution originals on all my devices, because my entire photo library is only about 20 Gb and I have plenty of room for it on my iPhone, iPad and Mac. But for some reason I do notice a slight lag (usually a pop-up that says "Downloading...") if for instance I attach a photo to an email on a device other than the one that took the photo in the first place. I'm really not sure if the high-resolution photos come in on the other devices until they're needed or opened, but with highspeed broadband that delay isn't much of a problem.
All of my other issues: the duplicate photos on iOS13, missing-key person photos, the strange "People from my Mac" album vs the regular "People" album on my iOS13 devices, the super-long sync times from my Mac, and the neverending "Syncing..." message at the bottom of my iOS13 photo albums... all those went away with my switch to iCloud Photos. It's not perfect but for me, eliminating all those hassles was worth the few disadvantages, and the 99 cents I pay each month to free up all the time and frustration I experienced before the switch.
I participated in similar forums when Apple released Mojave OS 10.14, whose requirement for Metal support made many of my company's older Mac Pro's permanently un-updateable; and again, when a different forum actually sent an e-signed petition to Tim Cook, asking him to end an apparent standoff with NVIDIA over its video drivers. Both forums raged for months (and, now, for years) without movement from Apple on the respective issues. I know how frustrating and seemingly unfair it is for a capability to suddenly be broken or removed without an apparent solution. Whether this iOS13 syncing problem joins the graveyard of these other lost causes remains to be seen, but Apple's track record of addressing any of them isn't very encouraging... especially when it offers alternative tech that apparently solves the problem as it shifts gears toward the future.