astro46,
Thanks for your reply. Let's continue.
We were checking to see if 'Not Connected' appeared to help isolate between an audio issue or connection issue. We understand that it would be a priority to continue to finish your conversation first, however.
I'd like to have you try these steps next:
-Toggle Bluetooth off and back on in Settings > Bluetooth (not Control Center).
-Restart your iPhone, iPad, or iPod touch - Apple Support.
-Restart your Bluetooth accessory. Make sure it is fully charged.
-Remove any case from your iPhone.
-Disable Wi-Fi in Settings > Wi-Fi (not Control Center).
-Test for the same behavior.
If the behavior continues, please try unpairing the Bluetooth accessory from your iPhone: Settings > Bluetooth > tap the 'i' next to the Bluetooth accessory > tap 'Forget This Device'. Then, if applicable, reset the Bluetooth accessory (you may need to reach out to the manufacturer if you're unsure how to do this), then pair and connect and test again.
If this does not resolve the issue, please reach out for extended support using this link next: Contact - Official Apple Support.
Thank you!