First, I recommend clearing SMC/VRAM after each update. As they are messing with drivers (probably) this needs to be done. After this is done, there were some "panics" left, but I could avoid "most" of them (now it is about "just" one every 2-3 days) by modifying some configuration settings:
1) In "energy saver", I disabled "enable power nap while..." (both in 'battery' and in 'power adapter') and "prevent computer from sleeping automatically when he display is off"
2) In "notifications", I disabled 'allow alls from everyone' and 'allow repeated calls' under "When do not disturb is on"
(2) is because I found that do not disturb was activated when the display is sleeping and in that case, receiving, e.g. a mail or whatsapp notification, usually produced a panic.
I agree that catalina is SERIOUSLY compromised: I bought a new computer thinking that my old good pal, a macbook pro from late 2013 was the cause of so many panics, to see that my new macbook pro experiences just the same problems. However, this configuration seems to be "good enough" to at least be productive.
My hypotheses is that the problem is really deep and it has to do with memory buffers affecting at least hard disks and video memory, so extensive use of disk transfers (e.g. photos uploads, time-machine long backups) and memory transfers (e.g. handling many different desktops in multi-display configurations, long - >100GB - Word documents) fails to reset some watchdog. Hope they solve everything soon.