Music missing and playlists empty
After iOS 13.3 update all my non-iTunes music is gone from my iPhone Xr. Songs are missing from playlists and some playlists are empty. I have long since discarded the CDs and because I pay for iCloud storage, my iTunes library isn’t backed up to my PC. I’ve checked and I don’t have iCloud music library (it doesn’t appear anywhere in settings under music or iCloud. I also don’t have a sync toggle anywhere. How can I recover my non Apple purchased music that I uploaded to iTunes? Please help! There are hundreds of songs and audio books, some of which are recorded songs by my children.
iPhone XR, iOS 13