Yep I figured as much. The problem with Apple Support is they may know more about the hardware but when it comes to software it's a hit or miss unless they are running the same softwares. Also since the MacBook Pro 15"/16" is the only Mac with graphics switching it may explain why they didn't know. Every other MacBook has Intel Integrated only and the iMacs and Mac Pro have only a dGPU.
Spotify is your issue 100%. I honestly have no idea why Spotify needs the dGPU but it definitely activates it and drains battery.
Here's my list of known softwares that activate the dGPU:
Apple's Photos app.
Spotify
Chrome
Pixelmator
Final Cut Pro X
Logic Pro X
Adobe CS/CC
There are more but I don't know off the top of my head. Apple's Music app and iTunes and Safari do not activate the dGPU.