Is is possible to miss incoming messages during a restore to iPhone?

I sent someone a message from my phone just before trying a system update. The system update didn't go well. Twice I got error 14 and the only way I could get success was just to restore my phone from a backup I had done earlier today (before sending the text message). When the phone came back online, I checked and the message I had sent was no longer there. No surprise since the backup was from earlier. But how do I know if the person responded while I was trying to restore the phone? I don't want to text them to see if they already answered because it involves a job inquiry and this just makes me seem like a disorganized mess, technology-wise.

I don't automatically store messages to iCloud, unfortunately.