Thanks for the reply. Unfortunately, I need the ringer volume up for other situations, and having it off or down at the wrong time would be very bad for me.
I've also tried using Shortcuts to automatically lower the volume when my AirPods connect, but that doesn’t work either. I think it lowers the music volume but still not the notifications, etc. I’ve noticed as I’ve been typing this that another overly loud sound is the keyboard clicks. Very unpleasant after a while.
It’s so frustrating that this is happening, especially when I change the volume with the buttons or Control Center and the OS specifically points out that the volume I’m changing is the AirPods’ volume. 😒