Thanks you, @diegoicosta, because based on your post, I also decided to buy a different docking station and it solved my connection problems. I went for the CalDigit TS3 Plus Dock and bought it at the Apple Store. Instead of USB-C, it uses a Thunderbolt 3 connection with the MacBook which some on this forum indicated would be one of the keys to resolving the issue. Well, apparently it does because all network tests run at full speed now all of the time, no more drops to 90Mbps. I can sleep and wake my MacBook and on it goes at top-speed (in my case 512Mbps external internet (speedtest) and 1Gbps internal network to NAS. I have tested the speed many different times over the multiple days since I installed the dock and the results are at max. speed and 100% stable and consistent at all times. Yay!
BTW, for business travels I also bought the portable version CalDigit Thunderbolt 3 Mini Dock. Did less testing but it uses the same Thunderbolt technology and all the tests I did run with it were the same as with the TS3 Plus: exact same speed and stability. Great product.
For those of you who want to buy the dock also, let me share my experience with the monitor. It is immediately recognised and runs plug & play (no additional software required) - but if your monitor is connected with HDMI instead of DisplayPort, make sure you have an ACTIVE DP-to-HDMI adapter or cable. I had an old passive DP-to-HDMI cable at hand so I tried it first but that didn’t work, you really do need the active version. I got the CalDigit one (link) and it solved the problem.