My AirPod pros are connected to my iPhone but the icon won’t appear

Hello,

1) Try a full reset: Reset your AirPods

2) Charging icon: it can be slow to appear. Open and close the cover of the charging case a few times

3) If they appear to be connected, but won't play, try this:

a) Open the Control Center

b) Long press on the music controls

c) Select the output option (little up-arrow with circles)

d) Select AirPods

Good luck.