So even though my iPhone has been connected to my Durango for a few months, and this issue started happening a week and a half ago, this is normal.
My vehicle needs to be turned on for the blue tooth to connect. My vehicle is the only thing connected to my phone via blue tooth.
Just when I'm starting to think Apple is a good product, something stupid like this happens and then I'm essentially told that to fix the problem I have to disable the blue tooth on my phone (which means I get a ticket if I answer my phone while I'm driving without blue tooth).
I don't have this issue with my personal phone, which is an android and it has multiple devices connected to it via blue tooth.
Apple sucks if the answer to a new problem is "the options you're seeing are normal". It's not normal when it wasn't happening months ago, and now it is happening.
I'm not disabling blue tooth on the iPhone, unless you're going to pay my tickets, and make arrangements with Manitoba Public Insurance that you will take all the lost points that I will have on my license for answering my phone while I'm operating a motor vehicle.