I have had YES my iPhone,Apple ID, I’m trying to figure out how where he can be getting in,Trust certificates are shown in blue or gray

I have been accessed since 2018. It started with my Facebook account, progressing to Instagram, Twitter, google, then the Apple ID. I had seven bugs installed on my phone so he could track the hole account, and me in my car. We ( yes it is my now ex husband of 10 yrs) had a smart home.. when I would got to sleep he had the Alexa.. say goodnight. When I turned on the to the sound bar would go into listening mode.. The beginning.. the before the divorce with an order of protection on him he took the rest of my accounts. Gmail, yahoo, Apple ID.. I lost everything. I thought at that time if I just get ride of the phone new#. My own account it would be over.. Not a chance.. since then I’ve gone thru 7 phones.. can’t count the email accounts, at least 12 apple IDs, 3 different phone numbers. And a trac phone Lg.. It took me until November of 2020. To get apple to except yes there perfect System was hacked.. frustrating.. call after call . Getting treated like I was crazy. No help.. I took screen shots of everything I could that was happening.. come to find out he had me listed as a child on our account.. and now... he owned my google iCloud platform.. I have gotten no support from Facebook, Twitter, phone provider, google. I feel like I’ve been paying for what?? Security ??? Where.. that is a joke.. don’t be fooled by the reputation. It is a falsified.. and yes I had duel authentication on everything.. I did nothing wrong but but marry a man that works as a senior software engineer at IBM.. All my accounts had identity theft protection.. For what?? No one has steppped up to lend a hand. Pass the buck and I am drowning in this.. police report filed . So I can get an order of protection against him again. Why.. he hides behind his computer. Won’t come close in person.. Please some one help with what I need to do to end this cyber stalking.. I have a report with FTC.. still no contact.. My goodness what makes everyone think this is ok. My phone takes photos of me.. I’m done.. I need resources., an advocate to say hey .. this person needs help.. It is very clear I stand alone.. Any resources on making contact with google platform .. Facebook to talk to some one.. I have put questions on boards that disappear.. I make a call it gets cut off.. I’m lost!! And at wits end..