You have not drank the Apple Kool-Aid. As few options as possible. The WiFi interface works for the most users. It is only visible when you click on it. Adding a bunch of options to say do not scan, or do not show, etc... just adds complexity for something that is looked at for a few seconds every once in a while.
What you can do is make sure your WiFi access point is at the top of the
System Preferences -> Network -> Wi-Fi (interface in the left column) -> Advanced -> Wi-Fi -> Preferred Networks:
Find your WiFi interface, and drag it to the top of the list.
macOS always walks down the Preferred Networks list in the order shown to find a connection. If your desired network is not at the top of the list, it will delay how fast your Mac re-establishes network connections after waking from sleep, or rebooting.
You can use the [-] button to remove any names from the list, so they will not be checked when waking from sleep or rebooting.
This will NOT change how the menu bar WiFi icon behaves, but it does affect how fast your Mac gets back on your network after waking from sleep or rebooting.