My iphone IS tapped (11promax)

No, it really isn't possible. It is far more likely that this person is just very good at making you think they can do that,

If your Apple ID has been compromised, someone could access a lot of your data, enough to fool you into thinking they know more than they do. Start here:

If you think your Apple ID has been compromised - Apple Support

If this person is calling your place of employment and getting information about you, you need to notify your HR department. They need to properly enforce policies on giving out personal information. You should also advise any of your co-workers not to give out information. For that matter, don't give your co-workers your private cell phone number. Then, they can't give it to anyone.

If someone is stalking you, you need to contact the police.

First off... wrong place. You're not talking to Apple here. The folks reading and responding are just users like yourself. You might bear that in mind when responding to them. So if you think Apple owe you something then you'll need to contact them directly.

Second: I've never heard of someone having to prove a crime has been committed. The person reports the crime and the police investigate. If they don't then you need to hire a lawyer. Again this is not the place for that kind of support.

Best of luck.

With the exception of the article on stingrays, all of those links are ads or paid promotions for things that don't really do what they say they do. They are scams to get your money.

A stingray is another issue entirely. Unless the person harassing you is in law enforcement and you are the target of an investigation, though, that's not what's happening.

You never said that you'd contacted the police. You asserted they couldn't help you.

Change your number and do NOT give it to anyone at work. If that means getting a basic phone with another number you can give to work for emergencies, get a prepaid phone for that.

However, it's very clear you're way too invested in this mistaken idea that your phone itself has been hacked and tryng to actually help you any further is a waste of my time.

Best of luck.

Read the terms of use you agreed to when you signed up. They explain everything. And pointing out to you that you're wasting your time posting here is not bullying, it's actually helping you. Why waste time being rude here when you could actually be doing something to solve your problem?

And you're welcome, of course.

You have a nice day now.

Nope. That's nonsense.

Keep the iPhone updated to the latest iOS always and never Jailbreak. That's it.

iOS / iPadOS devices cannot be hacked or infected with Virus / Malware / Spyware if it is updated to the latest iOS/iPadOS unless you have intentionally downloaded spurious software or unauthorized apps directly from the internet and installed on your device or/and have Jail Broken. 

It (Hacking) also depends on how careful are you in sharing sensitive and valuable information pertaining to your iPhone such as Passcode, Password etc with your friends and family members.

Be careful when sharing the device's sensitive and valuable information with friends and family members.

Thumb Rules:

1. Enable  Guided Access before handing over an iPhone to kids
2. Don't share Apple IDs
3. Don't Jail Break
4. Don't share sensitive information pertaining to your device and payment methods
5. Beware of Phishing