No Opportunity to make your avatar look anything like a man which is what I am, kind of causes problems please advise?

A memoji? Plenty of options. Use Memoji on your iPhone or iPad Pro - Apple Support

Hello ~ If you are asking about you avatar here in this forum follow these directions…At the top of your question click on your user name and when the next window opens in the middle of the screen click on View Profile . On the right hand side under Location you will see in blue Edit Profile and Preferences…click on that blue link. Then click on Edit Image where the avatar picture is located…you can then choose from one of the images there to use as your avatar. Then click continue and the image you choose will become your new avatar. As you earn more points…500 points in fact and become a level 3 user you can upload and use a custom avatar of your choosing. If a Memoji on your iPhone follow link below:

Use Memoji on your iPhone or iPad Pro - Apple Support

~Katana-San~