My iPhone was hacked

OK my password has been changed almost every day. My settings have been changed I keep it on dark it goes to light I keep it from rotating and it rotates I keep it at the brightest setting and it’s dim and when I look, It shows someone has dimmed it. I don’t have a Macintosh computer so I don’t put share however for some reason I go into settings and it says I’m sharing. My emails are taking longer than usual this is because they’ve been hijacked. Once I email the person who I’m supposed to get the email from all of a sudden my email shows up three hours late. This is not the only situation I’m being gas lighted so my phone is not the only issue and yes it has hacked. My XfinityMyAccount has me as a user not the “primary” but he primary user. I leave and my security alarm gets shut off this all stems from somebody hacking into Apple. Please do not tell me somebody is not in my phone when they are in my phone I’ve had pictures gone missing. If you can find a way to secure my phone I would be grateful to take your advice however we are looking at people above the law who listen to my phone calls with no warrant. As I said I’ve been gaslighting ever since I was beaten up by a man I dated for two years and one day unexpectedly he snapped no signs were there I came home and it was the first time I was ever involved in a domestic violent heinous abuse situation. Right after that my identity was stolen and the police department I went to told me that this was not a crime your identity being stolen was not a crime. Every other police department I’ve spoken to after told me it was a crime. So telling me someone is not hacking into my phone is like telling me no one beat me up in my head was bludgeoned and they laid in central Massachusetts hospital while they try to staple my head together that was physical abuse. The mental abuse comes through people who can hide themselves really well and hardly ever can get caught when I say the law or above the law please read between these lines thank you.

Do you know me? You referred to

“other “ issues. If there were no hacking, than my accounts would be secure. Those are the issues. Since you know because you brought it up - “the issues connected with hacking & gas lighting. Mu guy . Issues- start with a hack. Since you say there is no hack, how do you explain my security system being disarmed, no one has my phone and number. Oh yes, it’s been traced without a warrant.

Thank you.