finder won't force quit .just sends me in a loop of relaunch

Yes it’s supposed to always be open, that’s why you can’t force quit it…. It’s your File manager, its quite important that it’s running. Every Mac will have a dot under the Finder icon, and it will always be open, unless in the process of relaunching, in which it will temporarily be closed.

Yes, Finder cannot be force quit (at least in a user facing way) on macOS, as it is deemed integral to the user - without it open, you have no Files on your desktop, no file manager etc. Better to just restart your computer.

The Finder is the most important part of the System and is designed to be open at all times. It's essentially the eyes of the system to use a metaphor.