I want to thank everyone for the helpful suggestions. I will now report the outcome. My thinking was that all the warnings about possibly breaking a butterfly or the like were more or less pointless if, as was the case, the only likely solutions were to pay to have the top end all replaced for serious money, or to junk an otherwise perfectly fine computer.
So, since I have some experience in being attentive and careful with tiny things, and since I came equipped with the insights you have all shared with me about what COULD go wrong, I took a leap and purchased an entire set of replacement key caps for my model ($19 through Amazon, lord help us all). To my relief and surprise they turned out to be the correct ones. With them I first put back home the good test key (upperleft I never use ```~~~) I cannibalized to type on the E, then fit the tiny black disk over the central switch and successfully snapped down the new E key pad. It works a treat. Replaced the worn-out A (you could see through it) and a dodgy T. There IS some extra light on the E because the masking black was hosed, but I can live with that.
The basic failure was that the little corner clips on the original (ie the Apple 'Replacement' keyboard) had sheared away.
For removing the old caps I found the safest thing a stiffish card just a tiny bit thinner than a conventional credit card, and was very, very careful to lever things from the proper location at the top.