Sirdotcom wrote:
Using ssh/sftp has never been a problem, only inbound. It has to come from the other end which is a joke of WSL and windows. But still my machine is not even listening on :22. SCP is a great alternative, so I'll use that.
I'm not sure what you are saying here. To clarify...
You need to go to System Preferences > Sharing and enable "Remote login" to use ssh or sftp. If your user account isn't an administrator, you will need to change the "Allow access for" value too. There is a new setting to Allow full disk access for remote users. You might need that if you are trying to access any of the protected folders like Desktop, Documents, or Downloads.
I just tested ssh and sftp, both outgoing and incoming, and they work fine in Monterey.
Regarding sftp, I recommend scp instead. Perhaps the biggest problem with sftp is that it is easily confused with ftps, or "secure ftp". I think I did that when I initially ready your post. I hadn't used sftp in years and had forgotten about it. Are you sure you are are using sftp and not ftps? ftps is a true nightmare and should be avoided at all costs.