how do i know what GROUPS my contacts are in?!

Understood itzaida,

On iPhones, it sorts by lists which is where the contact originated. It doesn't fine tune by custom groups. You can submit feedback through: Product Feedback - Apple

Thanks for using Apple Support Communities

Hello itzaida,

Thanks for asking the Apple Support Communities about Contacts groups.

Use the info here to see what accounts you are using on your device: If your iCloud Contacts, Calendars, or Reminders won’t sync - Apple Support

"If your contacts, calendars, and reminders are in iCloud, then iCloud automatically updates your information. If your information is in a third-party account, like Google or Yahoo, you can change your default account to iCloud. Changing your default account to iCloud won't move your existing information from a third-party service to iCloud."

Thanks.