AirPods Pro plays Music when i don't want to

My AirPods Pro keep playing music when i don't want to. I can't have Music installed on any devices because this keeps happening. In fact: sometimes there's an empty static notification i can't remove that looks exactly like Music, but it's empty because it's uninstalled.

Here's a few examples:

• After a call it starts playing automatically. I never want this, i want to manually open Music and press Play for it to start.
• While watching a movie on iPad, pressing on the stem to Pause/Play will start playing music from my iPhone even though i never opened the Music app or listened to music that day. This happens at random.
• I use AirPods in bed to block the noise so i can sleep better, it will randomly start playing music or podcasts in the middle of sleep.
• Sometimes the AirPods will "open the case and connect" even though the case is closed (and clean).

Any way to solve this? Here's what i want:

• Music should never ever, under any circumstances, start playing on its own. No matter what. I decide to open it and press Play myself, not when it decides randomly.
• If i close the Music app after listening to it, it should never ever come back on its own and decide to Play when i press the stem to hang up on a call.