Syncing deleting photos on iphone and Mac Photos

Hi there, I am finally submitting the Mac Photos after Apple left us with no real alternative (I am really not a fan of the whole blackbox Photos Library file management system, can't see how that is not going to be an issue in the future - I just want to see the files like every other process on a computer! but anyways, still seems like the least bad photo management tool for iPhone and Mac uses)

I have around 150GB of photos currently on my iphone (and a further 3TB of photos on external hard drives from previous iPhones as well as camera SD cards which I'll want to import ).

I estimate I'd want to delete around 30% of all the photos once imported onto my computer (both off my computer and off my iPhone) - out of focus pics, bad pics etc etc.

And in total I would want to delete 80% of the photos from my iPhone - just important/favorite photos.

I do not want to use/rely on iCloud - just doesn't seem feasible or viable when we are talking multiple TBs of files.

So is there a way to do this?

eg, once the photos are downloaded/imported into Photos, is there any way of syncing behaviour (if I delete a photo on the MacBook, that is automatically deletes on the iPhone)?